Lovely Ladies

“We hate you in the best way” she said batting her eyelashes and puckering her lips together in an odd grin.

I had no response so I just smiled politely and continued on doing what I originally went there to do.
Now I know this sounds negative ( to post on a positive media blog ), but hear me out.

I work in an office full of women, and so naturally clothes and shoes came up. Somewhere in the midst of the conversation one mentioned how the other secretly hates me. I was confused and while laughing nervously I asked why.
“Oh you’re just so young and skinny.” she said as the others nodded in agreement.
“Yeah but, we hate you in the best way.”

Okay. Ladies, if you work with other ladies (I’m sure you do) there is no “best way” to hate someone. Joking about it is not cute or amusing. If you are jealous of another person, then as a responsible and mature (I hope) adult, find exactly what it is you’re jealous about and do something for yourself to succeed in whatever way it is that makes you envious of them.
Why must there be so much rivalry and hate within an office work place? Especially among women. I swear I’m navigating through an absurd adult version of high school. Absurd because didn’t we all learn through experience how terrible high school can be when we do these things to each other? Yet every day, office spaces across America continue to operate in the same way.

My patience and level of empathy for others is in-measurable so of course I continue to be polite, helpful and kind. However, my respect for these grown women is chipped away at each day they are unpleasant and cruel. For some I would imagine it would affect their mood, and ability to work and even their want to work there at all. But I am the master of resiliency and because I love my job and where I work, their actions have no affect on my overall day. I will admit that at times I am left in amazement and at others I truly want to cry but within an hour I’m over it and remembering what a statement that makes about THEIR character.

Ladies, let’s lift each other and love each other for our differences. Let’s work together and share our secrets and life hacks. Let’s help each other get ahead, guide and mentor each other. Let’s check each other when we need it and praise one another when we deserve it. We are not in competition, we are in this together. Ladies we’re all lovely and it’s time to show and share it.

A little bit of jealousy can be a good thing depending on what a person does with it. Because it may push or inspire someone to work towards something they want. However, holding onto it and using it to justify being awful is not okay. Neither is jokingly and passively aggressively telling a co worker you hate them in the “best way”.
This is a lesson in how we allow emotions to affect us. I get jealous of others, but you know what I do? I look deeply into why. And then when I have the answer I do something, I set a goal, I create a reminder in my phone, I schedule a time or create a schedule to obtain what I want that they have.

Some things are simply not attainable though, in which case, see my last post.